The author, Rosalyn, seems to be incapable of understanding that she can not take just her own experiences with her husband, and a few that she got off reading forums, and by that make hard fast rules that this MUST be how it is for all ABs - or as she (and only she) calls them, “Little Ones”. It also really bugs me that when some people DID come out against her and say, “Look - I am a Little/Age Player/whatever term you want to use - and this is NOT how it is for me!” she merely writes them off as “sexual age players” and therefor incapable of understanding the lifestyle SHE is talking about.
After years of dealing with a certain subset of Littles that were certain they were a different type of animal than other Littles, and none of them would ever wear a diaper, I’m sick of it. It’s bigotry, plain and simple. I have one friend who actually went so far as to start talking about how those who don’t wear diapers are “pure” LGs, while others are not. Anyone who has studied history and some of the speeches made by Hitler should feel the chills from that one.
The truth of it is that over 50% of the LGs I know (and believe me, I know a hell of a lot of them) DO wear diapers and engage in a range of other baby activities as well. Those who don’t are the minority. So the question arises as to whom is “more pure”?
That said, I do know a good number (though it is not a majority) of LGs who do NOT wear diapers. Rosalyn seems incapable of understanding that little fact, since she stressed over and over in that little article that ALL Little One’s wear diapers, that it is integral, etc. I guess my friends would not be “pure” Little One’s in her estimation. Wonder what that makes them?
She also tends to praise non-integration. This can lead to harmful problems, such as multiple personalities. I feel that over the years, I have become more and more integrated into who I am - a whole personality. Just because I am not wearing a dress (and or/diaper) does not make me not Kita. Just because I am wearing a dress and/or diaper does not make me not ________. They are one in the same. That is the goal, to integrate your personalities, so that you are comfortable to simply be who you are.
I was rather put off by her assertion that Little Ones have all these social problems. Sorry, Rosalyn, but I do not crawl, swear profusely, throw temper tantrums, use porn excessively, or compulsively masturbate.
I got irritated by one phrase she used over and over. “More on this later.” She was using that phrase (or forms of it) sometimes even more than once a page. And many of those things - she never got to later anyway. If you are going to address something later, address it later. Don’t keep constantly telling your reader that you are going to address something you just talked about more in depth later.
Finally - I know I am a grammar Nazi, but it seems if this was formal writing she could have done SOME proofing and editing!
Do you know the use of this book? It is NO better than any of those TV shows. People go on the show intending to better explain AB to the world. Every one of them thinks THEY will be the one to do it better. And what we end up with is a sensationalized piece of crap that most others out there look at and say, “WTF?? That’s NOT me, and I don’t want anybody seeing this and THINKING it is me!”
And so it goes. People think they will use an article with their SO to explain what their own identity is. Forget about it! The best way to explain your identity to your SO is to talk to them about YOU … not about some article that someone else wrote. It’s time the Littles world start to get it through our thick little skulls that everybody is unique. Just because we may have something in common does not mean it stems from the same cause (the never-ending question of, “Why are we like this?”), that we fulfill our desires in the same way, or that our partners are going to react in the same way.