Re: Inspirations and influences
I’ve long had opinions on the divide but it’s hard to explain. I understand people not wanting to think it’s binary but, although the spectrum may be true, once you pass a certain mark on the spectrum it makes people on the other side uncomfortable to engage in play.
For example, numerous littles want nothing to do with sex while engaged in “little” mode. They get so deep into it, it would be like child molestation to them. Others find practicing in age play erotic because they are “playing” instead of “being.” This is a binary. Either there is a sexual aspect to your age play or there is not and if both players are not on the same side of this line, the play will be very frustrating for one of them.
Humiliation is another big deal. For instance, I find humiliation erotic only when I know it will not actually result in social stigma (again, “playing” not “being”). Thus, stories in which someone is actually humiliated are not unenjoyable but I do not enjoy the humiliation specifically, in the same way I like a murder mystery but don’t actually enjoy the murdering. Stories in which a person controls their own humiliation or has a genuinely kid DOM, I can find the humiliation exciting (closed environment, voluntary, etc). I guess, the building of worry about being humiliated in the character’s head is good, the actual fruition of such humiliation is bad, for my tastes.
So, sex, humiliation/control are the great divides in ABDL play. Some people want sex and domination, others just want to be kids. Kids (or an adult who is really able to immerse themselves in a child-like mind) are scared of sex and domination so the two do not mix. For instance, there’s an AB group in my area that holds play parties in a dungeon. How could anyone be little and not be scared shitless of torture tools hanging around the room? It’s because of either desperation, (the little is so lonely he/she would rather play in a scary place than be lonely) or because they’re playing at being little, not really being little.
I suppose there is a third possibility but it disturbs me more. Children that have undergone trauma (sexual abuse and the like) will attempt to engage in those behavior to make sense of what happened to them. I suppose adults that were abused as children could simultaneously reenter their childhood and yet want to engage in sex and domination because they have been unable to work through their abuse.
Now, having proposed that third possibility, I’m going to go to crazy town and guess at how each interest occurred.
1st Category: People who are both fully “littles” and want to engage in sex. (probably sexual abuse victims)
2nd Category: People who are fully little and do not want sex (possibly non-sexual abuse, neglect, or just felt their childhood unfairly lacked something)
3rd Category: People who play at being little and want to engage in sex because they have had very enjoyable sexual interactions with those in either the 1st Category or someone who was already initiated into the 3rd Category (who, down the line, probably started with someone from the 1st Category).
Now, of course, this assumes the age-play consists of a little having a sexual interest unrealistic to the played age. If someone is playing “little” but is playing post-pubescent (high school girl, etc) of course sexual play is normal (even if socially weird). Also, I’m not condemning any of it; these issues have to be dealt with in some way and exhibiting them among consenting adults is a healthy way of dealing with it. Still, it helps to understand where our psychological issues probably stem from. Also, it is entirely possible to be both AB -and- DL. Which is to say, sometimes a person wants to be little, other times they want to wear diapers and fuck. The issue is whether they want to be little whilst fucking.
And, to reattach to the topic, I believe the stories portrayed on here depend on which aspect the author falls into. ADA seems to have spawned from the 2nd Category, whereas most fiction seems to spawn from the 3rd category. This makes sense of course; adults have much more interest in sex than being a child again so it’s very rare a person is interested in the lifestyle of the 2nd Category unless their childhood made them that way whereas the persons in the 1st Category have something kinky to share with otherwise normal adults.
I’m not saying I’m right about any of this, I just like musing.