Note: This post may seem slightly incoherent and I apologize for that. I found it difficult to balance your need to know what is happening with @Penguin with the need to protect her privacy.
tl;dr version: Mom got so stressed her brain shorted out and she’s currently in the hospital being carefully monitored leaving everything in a right fucked up mess.
So those in the chat know how the this started, sort of. They know what finally triggered the situation, but not the whole situation, and unfortunately there’s a lot of stuff I can’t discuss even though I would dearly love to.
Mom has been stressed for weeks about some personal stuff going on in our household including a weird situation regarding our utility bills. Namely, the fact that the trustee for my finances due to my conservatorship (this is a really messed up situation in general) has a set budget each month for them, and can’t deviate from it if our utilities are more than the budget the court has created allows for.
Well, we were supposed to be moving into a smaller house because my brain isn’t exactly not-broken and I’ve been having issues with living in the current house. The new place needed some work done on it and it was supposed to be done in July but there were complications so we ended up in a situation that is messed up utility-wise.
On the 10th mom got the current electric bill for the house we’re living in, which is $304. However, due to the fact we’re supposed to already be in the new house the utility alotment was lowered and there wasn’t enough to cover that bill. As in after paying te other bills, there was $4 to pay that $304 electric bill. See the problem? No, of course, because what you guys don’t know is that due to a huge fuck up with the electric company awhile back the bill for this house is on an extended payment arrangement meaning she couldn’t request an extension of the payment date even the few days to when we could pay it.
Mom… broke. That scream she let out is something i won’t forget anytime soon. When I got to her office she was on the floor curled up in a really tight ball and wouldn’t respond. I called 911, and short version of that is that after multiple attempts to uncurl her body they had to transport her to the hospital still curled up in a ball.
They admitted her to the ICU where a neurologist evaluated her and while he said she was likely to recover it would be awhile. They applied electroshock therapy to her in an attempt to unscramble her brain because she was curled up in that ball because her brain was sending the wrong signals to the wrong places. The therapy did cause her to uncurl, but things are still really scrambled even now.
Currently she is unable to communicate at all. To give you an idea of what the problem is, basically her brain had a kernel panic that corrupted the drivers for her other hardware.
She is very slowly recovering, but right now they can’t even give me an estimate of when or even if she’ll fully recover.
So that brings me to the situation with the forums.
As you’ve probably noticed, I am now an admin. Mom and I had discussed the possibility due to her various health issues, and against my better judgement I did what she wanted. Unfortunately, we never discussed the possibility that she’d be unable to communicate, only not physically able to do the work herself.
First off, let me say that financially, the forums are fine. Between the Patreon and PayPal donations the monthly income is enough to cover the operating costs and I do have access to the hosting account to make sure the bill is paid.
The bigger issue is on the moderation and administration front. I already hinted at this in the previous message, but I want to spell this out explicitly now for everyone: If you have a moderation issue, you must contact the @moderators group to get it dealt with, whether you send them a PM or flag the post. Do not attempt to PM mom or myself. You’ll only get a response from me telling you to contact the moderators.
If, you have an issue that can only be handled by an admin, such as issues with your Donor Lounge access, then contact me and I’ll get it straightened out as quickly as I can, which should go much faster now that I finally have access to all the accounts properly.
If you disagree with a moderation decision, you can contact me, but be warned that I am really unlikely to override a moderator action unless it’s one I know mom would override. To be absolutely clear, I will not deal with any moderation issues personally unless it is strictly necessary. It’s not my place and honestly I don’t even want to be an admin but I don’t have much choice on the matter.
Since a few people will ask about this, yes, this affects my conservatorship as currently the two people who can make decisions for me are also the ones with mom’s durable power of attorney. So… yeah, it’s a fucked up mess to put it mildly because I’m in this really weird situation where I’m responsible for a lot of things I’m not supposed to be, but those who should be responsible really can’t be because mom would never trust them with access to the servers.
As for the missing Patreon posts that some have asked me about: It’s actually my fault they haven’t been posted and I’ll be trying to get that fixed as soon as possible, but it’s going to take time.
And a final note: Be warned that if you do manage to do something so epicly stupid that mods have to defer to me, you will find that while I’ll try to handle how mom would I am way less tolerant of your bullshit than mom or even @ClawdiaWolf would have been. Unlike them, I have no issues banning repeat offenders.
If you have any questions, feel free to ask them, but be aware that to protect mom’s privacy I may not be able to answer all of them.