Re: What is it with ABDLs and going on TV?
You’re probably talking about me.
I was making a general statement, and I deliberately didn’t mention your name. I don’t really know what the circumstances were surrounding your particular situation, nor was I attacking you personally. I do recall a post in which you discussed a few public outings, and I noted that I was surprised that relatively few people reacted unkindly. That was it. That doesn’t necessarily mean that I would group you in the same category as someone who dresses up inappropriately to get attention, but it also doesn’t change my feelings on the matter.
Yes, I have gone out dressed in little girl clothing - multiple times in multiple locales. Yes, I have received extremely little negative attention - and a lot of positive attention. I do not flaunt my underwear or diapers when I do so … I wear suitably lengthed dresses or skirts - or even overalls, as well as tights, and a wig …. a jacket or coat if it is cold. I dare say I show a LOT less skin than most of the public surrounding me.
I don’t really care about gender-barriers. If a man wants to dress up like a woman or vice versa, I take absolutely no issue with that. To my thinking, transexuality and cross-dressing fall closer toward lifestyle choices than kinks. Note also that I never specifically said that what you were doing was wrong. I don’t really know what you do or what the circumstances surrounding your situation might have been.
I do not think of this as throwing my private kink in anyone’s face, because this is not a kink. A kink is, by definition: “a peculiarity or deviation in sexual behavior or taste.” That’s not me. I suppose it COULD be called a kink if we used this definition: “An unusual or eccentric idea.”
I always refer to diaper fetishism, age regression and infantilism as kinks or fetishes, because that’s how I identify with them, and – as you just pointed out – because both terms are accurate. I understand that not everyone relates to them in that manner, but it’s very difficult for me personally to conceive of how they can be viewed in any other light. I understood diaper fetishism to be sexual before I knew what it meant to have sex.
The terms “kink” and “fetish” both have broad definitions. I’m willing to bet that these definitions were broadened specifically to clarify situations such as this. You can refer to someone as having a leather kink without necessarily implying a sexual connotation, but it won’t change how I personally feel about people who go to the supermarket wearing bondage masks and nipple clamps.
Why do I do it then? The freedom to be myself. I can do that without waddling around in a full diaper on display - I think most people can - even those who identify more as babies.
Hey, it’s a free country. I never once climbed up on my high horse to tell other people what they could or couldn’t do, but I do feel that people should show some modesty when they put themselves directly in the public light. That doesn’t mean that people will, but it also doesn’t change my feeling on the subject.
And even when we’re talking about completely immodest attire, it’s one thing if a person is headed to an event or a a club that caters specifically to his or her kinks and another thing if that person goes to places that are all adult-oriented. But when we start talking about venues where we can’t control who is and isn’t present, I personally start to take issue.
So people may be exposed to a style of dressing they may not like
It’s more than that. Take a submissive masochist who has some very liberal views about relationships, sexuality, dominance and power exchange. Nothing wrong with that. Now imagine that person is walking into a store on a leash, on all fours, wearing nothing but a dog collar, a pair of boots and some leather chaps. Even if he isn’t putting anyone in danger or exposing his genitals to the public, I still feel like he’s still painting the entire subculture in a poor light. If I had children, I wouldn’t want them to be exposed to something like that at an early age – and I don’t really care whether or not that person considers it to be sexual or not.
I’m not saying that this is the equivalent of what you do. I don’t really know what you do or how you dress - and I’ll admit that a footed sleeper was probably a poor example, considering what people have gotten away with; it was the first thing that came to mind at the time. Still, I feel that there absolutely comes a point where a line gets crossed, and I feel like everyone, from the man who wears a leather collar around his neck as a symbol of his dominant’s power to the woman who likes to wear her pacifier out in public (neither of which is inherently wrong), should be conscious of that line.
Since when did we start getting the idea that because I don’t like to see something, that makes it wrong for anyone to do or dress such in public?
These are my personal feelings on the matter. I’m sure everyone will have a different opinion on the subject.