Why Are some in The ABDL community so Judgemental?

I am confused why the community is so Rude and Judgemental?
It seems a very odd way to act?
Could someone please explain?
This site has been great and very Kind.

This is completely out of left field, but I’ll bite.

When you show up somewhere advertising a product or service, and this is literally your only contribution to the conversation, people naturally are suspicious.

Has nothing to do with being judgmental. Has to do with spam.

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The reason is likely the same for the reactions to both of your threads here.

For this one, you provided no context. Are you taking about the community being judgmental in general? Is there a specific instance you’re referring to? You haven’t explained that here so…

Assuming you’re talking about reactions to your other thread, @WBDaddy pretty much has it covered. You’ve contributed nothing else to this community so how could we possibly know who you are or whether you’re legit at all. How would we know you aren’t just a spam account that got through the filters.

As I said, you provided no context for that thread either. Given that I had to ask what you intended, and others did as well, it’s safe to say you didn’t explain yourself well at all.

And if you think this post contains hostility, it does not. I’m just explaining it as I see it.

Clarity in communication helps people understand. I had no context for the OP’s post so I hunted up the only other thread they posted in. And I’m assuming the two are related. I’m still not sure what the first thread was about? Talking about a business idea and asking if people would be interested? Making the idea into an actual business?? I’m guessing OP was not happy with the replies. The only thing I have to say is people can’t read minds- you have to fully explain so people can understand,OP. Then you might get the results you’re looking for.

Also for the record (and before any potential butthurt) I’m not being judgemental. (Hell I’m not even sure what the topic is let alone judging it). I’m merely pointing out clarity is key for successful communication.

Best of luck in your future endeavours.

Hi Thanks for the input I have no problem with people being suspicious or thinking I am Spam,
I am setting up a Clinic for AB’s that have suffered Trauma in there life and want to seek Help,
There are many who use the ABDL sites that want this service I have 100’s of E-mails to prove this.
I have been called a con artist scammer liar thief Based on nothing?.
Contempt prior to investigation.
So the post is really to start a conversation about the narrow views of some.
I make mistakes and not very subtle at times but I want AB’s to be able to receive Therapy in a setting that respects there AB side.
This site has been more curious than rude so I thank you for the constructive comments.

Hi Thanks for the input I have no problem with people being suspicious or thinking I am Spam,
I am setting up a Clinic for AB’s that have suffered Trauma in there life and want to seek Help,
There are many who use the ABDL sites that want this service I have 100’s of E-mails to prove this.
I have been called a con artist scammer liar thief Based on nothing?.
Contempt prior to investigation.
So the post is really to start a conversation about the narrow views of some.
I make mistakes and not very subtle at times but I want AB’s to be able to receive Therapy in a setting that respects there AB side.
This site has been more curious than rude so I thank you for the constructive comments.

I am not used to Social media and find the hate and anger hard to deal with,
but want to Thank-you for your kind words.

Hi not hostile, I appreciate the comments.

There is sometimes hostility towards the community and frequently misunderstandings and misapprehensions, so I suspect many people are concerned and cautious when they encounter something like the service you’re looking to offer.

The initial post you made on this site was brief and succinct, but that also meant that it didn’t offer the context and broader set of information that would pre-empt uncertainty and associated fears. When engaging a new audience - whether through fiction, as we do, or to share details of a service as you are - it’s important to start from their perspective. What do they know already, what would you like to share with them and how do you take them through that transfer of information in a way that’s accessible to them.

To give you an example, you’re discussing a clinic but we don’t know which continent it’s on, let alone if it’s near enough to visit, how to access the services, what order of magnitude costs might be, the training and credentials of the staff, any regulatory oversight you’re complying with… At the moment it feels more of an idea than a viable proposition from the information we’ve had access to. Although they may struggle to articulate it (or even realise it’s happening) people will treat that lack of information and detail as a warning sign and, online, warning signs do tend to draw an aggressive response from at least a subset of the audience.

Hi I understand that and agree with you,
I will try to put more details,
Thanks.

I’ve seen your posts on fetlife.
I have no reason why this happened but I commented simply ‘what’s the catch?’ As I was inquisitive as to what you where offering. This is because, as some people have rightly already mentioned, scams are rife. Having being a victim myself Im cautious.
Someone reported my comment ‘what’s the catch?’ And banned me for life for that comment.
I don’t know who reported it and banned me from the group but things like this won’t help. I’m not mad, but things like this doesn’t help you. I was genuinely interested in talking about what you do as I am a trauma survivor.

Hi thanks for your comment,
I have my own group on fetlife and we are all like minded so no hate etc,
Please join,
https://fetlife.com/groups/224243

Holy crap, dude, that is just awful!